It is sometimes good to know that you are not everything that you think you are. It will also be good to know that the truth hurts and if we continue to live in a life of personal lies, and choose to be ignorant then you have asked for it. Seek the truth as that is what will be good for you in the long term. If you never hear the truth, you will never learn. If you push the blame it will soon come back to haunt you. We may choose to help our way but others may want to be help in a way that can also work for them. There is never just one way to skin a cat for anyone.