May 5, 2019

My Melbourne Escape.


It has been a long while since I left the country alone to discover new ideas, time alone to reflect and most importantly to be inspired. These last few days away alone brought back lots of good memories of how I have forgotten the beauty of just living without any responsibility. You see, the more responsible I became over the course of my life made others expect me to be more responsible for more than I ever wanted to be. It just never ends and the responsibilities just kept on piling together with the life and work pressure & stress that was uncalled for that made me unhealthy and unhappy. The last few days allowed me to roam freely, meet freely, explore freely & most importantly do freely without anyone to care for or adjust my decisions for anyone. I felt emancipated. I felt real freedom and I was at peace with myself. 

As I return home to Malaysia, I am reminded that I too have many options & choices as I continue to become a better version of myself and saying no to people is something that I will be doing a lot more. I am done chasing after continuous success but focused on attracting success for a more sustainable me. So if you expect me to just say yes for opportunities that are not fit to my lifestyle & heart desires, the answer will be a big NO. My advice for you to be able to perform and do exceptionally well is to make sure that whatever that you are doing, the people that are with you & the timing for all that you do is the right fit for you. Take care of yourself as nothing is more important than you for yourself. 

I will and I am. What about you?

53 comments:

Andrew Yau said...

Welcome back boss. Really glad to hear that you had a great experiences in Australia.

Ya, the more responsibility you are having, the more you have to do continuous.

Take good care and be yourself. Do what you want, we will move accordingly.

Shera said...

Welcome back Mr Ernie!

Over the years I have learned that as we grow older, more and more responsibilities start to fall on our back. I have also learned that it is up to us once we have decided on something. No one can say what we get to be. Everyday we must always add value and improving ourselves, no matter how little it will be. Only then, we get to have more choices and options on every aspects of our life. I have decided to become better version of myself. Thank you for the inspiration as always boss.

Unknown said...

Welcome back to Malaysia, Mr. Ernie!
Solo Travelling is definitely in my to-do list. I believe travelling alone will be giving me a chance to indulge myself fully. Go Solo, Go Far!

“Take care of yourself as nothing is more important than you for yourself.”

A year ago, I was in a state of putting people first before myself. The result didn’t turn out well based on my experience. Eventually I started to forget the importance of myself and that’s where I become involved with myself, making time for self-care. Putting myself as priority doesn’t mean that I am selfish but it replenishes my spirit to serve others with love and care.

“When you say ‘YES’ to others make sure you are not saying ‘NO’ to yourself” – Paulo Coelho

-Thinessha Balan-

Kevin Jaffery said...

Each of us have different responsibility, whether we like it or not we have to carry it, it's not a choice. You can't escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.

Thank you Mr.Ernie for the sharing.

Wizz said...

Indeed. Being our true selves is the most important thing, don't ever try to become someone else, no matter how bad we admire someone, what we can do is just to get the lessons, be ourselves, and make ourselves a better selves.

Thanks for the sharing and welcome back.

Wayne Chong said...

Dear Mr. Ernie, Thanks for the sharing about your Melbourne trip, really learn a lot always and get inspired by you.👆

Unknown said...

Welcome back Mr. Ernie!

We all are having the certain responsibilities in different things, we have to deal with it and better yet, willing to but not force ourselves to do so.

Go along with the responsibility and grow with it!

- Alan Yong-

Kelvin Thong said...

Welcome back sir.

Thank you from the bottom
of my heart to you have helped me through all this while. Your guidance and patience made me from nobody to somebody.

All the best to the organisation and team.

Thanks for everything.

Carmen Lee said...

Welcome back Mr. Ernie,

Thank you for sharing.

When I first join the organization I already understand the more responsibility you are having, the more you have to consistent and accomplish the objectives.

“No opportunity for the lazy, but diligence can make the most common variable opportunity” — Martin Luther.

-Carmen Lee-

Sofea Fitri said...

I believe we always have a choice in life. If the road we are traveling on is not creating success, it may be time for us to fly! Always be open to better options.

Thank you for sharing Mr.Ernie.

-Sofea Fitri

Anonymous said...

Welcome back to Malaysia Mr Ernie.
First and foremost, thank you for the sharing.

“So if you expect me to just say yes for opportunities that are not fit to my lifestyle & heart desires, the answer will be a big NO”

Indeed, sometimes it is good to say NO in our daily life which is reflecting the importance of ourselves at a certain time. We are not must saying YES for all the times if there is a perfect time to say NO.

Last but not least, glad to hear about someone’s vacation/trip/travel as it is the time to catch freedom (anything) and disappear from a work burden (anything). It is reminding me about “work-life balance”. A quality work-life balance can produced greater quality of productivity.

-Richard Rut-

Mandy Siow said...

Welcome back Mr. Ernie! Thanks for the sharing!

Every responsibility that we have is a chance for us to grow and to become a better version of us. We cannot escape from it unless we do not want to grow for further.

Take good care and we will keep moving to take the responsibility.

Matthew Leong said...

Welcome back Mr. Ernie! I will remember that what you teach me: "Not to FML, is just FTW!"

Thank you Mr. Ernie for the sharing!

Unknown said...

A year ago, I definitely went through the responsibility that Mr. Ernie have mentioned. It was difficult to take the responsibility, but it is also extremely difficult for me to put down the responsibility.

Why I say so? Being a leader is hard but when you start to put yourself in the position, you will love what you do and do better. Although it happened a lots of shits but you will cry when the moment you have to leave go it. It's because what makes you feel stress and hard, it will help you to grow and make you stronger.

- Michell Tang -

Noorfa said...

Boss,

Thank you for the advice. We definitely will improve ourself with our performance and do exceptionally well together.

Anonymous said...

Welcome back to Malaysia Mr Ernie..

Absolutely, with great power theres a big responsibility and to make sure that we can continously being responsible, we must take care of our health.

Thank You for the sharing Mr Ernie.

-Hafizuddin Zakwan Azman-

fadelah said...

Thank you for the sharing, boss.

Traveling alone makes us more responsible for ourselves. We automatically need to make decisions without any help from anyone. It makes us more responsible and gain more experience.

Even we are alone, we can still continue to make choices and decisions.

Zainudin Hj Telimik said...

welcome back mr. Ernie, from where the inspiration came, from vision to endless endless work. Not a few people have a vision, but a handful of people can carry a lot of personalities and responsibilities in his team and you are among the chosen stars ..

Bella Habeb said...

Welcome back, Mr. Ernie!

Glad to hear that you have a great time in Australia! Solo traveling is indeed a good way to escape from reality and re-energize.

Whatever you're doing, put yourself first. Do what you want, no one knows you best except for yourself.

“Confidence is knowing who you are and not changing it a bit because of someone’s version of reality is not your reality.”
― Shannon L. Alder

rosmalia said...

Welcome back to Malaysia, Mr. Ernie!

We live in a superb world that is brimming with excellence, appeal, and experience. There is no closure to the experiences. That is the reason words can neither qualify nor evaluate how supportive your direction and counsel has been. I value all that you have shown me and esteem everything that I have gained from you. Thank you.

-rosmalia

Chloe Ang said...

Welcome back Mr Ernie!
We will have more responsibility if we handle more and more things. Most important, improve ourselves that can bring values to others and attract success!

Glad that you come back safety and discover new things during your trip. Thanks for sharing.

Clement Choo said...

Welcome back Mr. Ernie!

Everyone should carry their own weight and be authentic so that we can attract success but not chasing after it.

Thank you Mr. Ernie for sharing.

Priya Tarishini said...

Self-love is as much important as increasing responsibilities in life. Self-love is not a luxury to be delayed or subordinated to the “real business” of going after your goals or caring for others.

Over the years I have learned that caring for myself is the foundation of my strength and stability, without which I am of no use to anyone. And it’s the only thing propelled me forward on my journey and held me steady whenever I was inevitably stumble.

In order to be successful at anything in life, you need to first believe that you deserve to be.

Thank you for the sharing Mr. Ernie!

-Priya-

Nivashini A/P Subramaniam said...

Welcome back to Malaysia, Mr. Ernie!

Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others. It all begins with you. if you do not care for yourself, you will not be strong enough to take care of anything in life.

Thank you for the sharing Mr.Ernie. Have an awesome day!

-Nivashini-

Aqilla Farihah said...

Welcome back Mr Ernie!

"Great things never came from comfort zones"

I believe that in order to achieve something in our life, we have to take challenge and from that we will find our own success and become better. Our life is our choice so choose wisely!

-Aqilla Farihah-

Anonymous said...

Welcome back Mr. Ernie!

Life can be unfair to anyone who is willing to take up responsibilities. Learning to say NO at some point, helps in putting us back on the right track. I am glad you found a RESET button in the form of this solo escapade, Mr. Ernie.

- Malathy Muniandy -

Anonymous said...

Life is a journey. Make the best of it.

Either a daring adventure or nothing at all.

Thank you for the sharing Mr Ernie.

- Hakim Shakir

Unknown said...

Welcome back Mr.Ernie!

I learned how to take the responsibility to take good care of myself, my team,my friends as well as my family just like how you did it with daily basis.

If we do great things, great things will happen.

-Randy-

Sangkari Dinesh said...

Welcome back to Malaysia, Mr.Ernie!

Yes accepting personal responsibility is when we are taking ownership of our own behaviour and consequence of that behaviour. Until we accept responsibility for own action, it is difficult to develop self respect or even have respect for others.

Over the years i have learned that taking responsibility for your own will lead us to success place for whatever we have done and this lead my life journey to continue with more braver.

Thank you for the sharing, Mr.Ernie.

-Sangkari-

Norhafizah binti Mohd Rupi said...


Welcome back Mr. Ernie!

For me the responsibility given will leads us to a great success. Everything is in our own hands.

Thank you.

Rangjini said...

Welcome back Mr.Ernie . I do hope you have a fruiful days in Australia .

Travelling alone make a lot of different. You will have the entire time in the world for you to narrow down your actual path and choose the best option which suits you. Sometimes soul-searching is important some part of our life.

I'm very much sure, you have got what you wanted from Auzie!!. Never seen you come back empty handed .

All the best in your journey which you have taken. It will a good time too for me to do the same thing now.

Take care and have a great day .

^Rangjini^

Edwin Yau said...

Welcome back, and thank you for the sharing Mr. Ernie.

Everything happens for a reason. We will learn and appreciate when they are right and trust sometimes good things will come to us.

-Edwin-

Unknown said...

Everyone can just leave without any reason easily, but you are not. Because of the responsibilities.
Welcome back Mr. Ernie!

Thank you for the awesome sharing.

-Shirley-

Unknown said...

Thanks Mr. Ernie for the awesome sharing to us, it is really can inspire us.

Responsibility is special things to grow us far and fast.From your blog I really know the important of Responsibility. I will take the big Responsibility so that I can grow.

-Tony Lim-

Peggie Woo said...

Welcome back, Mr Ernie!
I know you had a great trip at Melbourne. You not only enjoy the trip yourself, but you do daily Live on FB too. When we watch the Live, just like we been to Melbourne as well.

Once again, thanks for the opportunity that you given to me.

Alex Cheok said...

Welcome back to the Malaysia.

It cannot denied that each of us has our own responsibility and we cannot escape it. Indeed, we are not only responsible for what we say, but also for what we do not say.

Thank you for your wonderful sharing and take good care of yourself.

Anonymous said...

Setiap pengembaraan akan mengajar kita erti kehidupan yang lebih baik.
Sama ada tempat kita lebih baik ataupun tempat orang lebih baik,
kita ambil yang mana baik untuk meningkatkan taraf kehidupan kita.

Terima kasih boss.

- Roslee

Anonymous said...

Life is a journey, not a race.
Enjoy every moment that happened to you.
Live to the fullest!
Being solo or in a group will give you different responsibilities. It just how you response to the responsibility.

Thank you.

-Fadillah Muhamad-

Joseph said...

Welcome back sir!

It is great that if we left all responsibilities behind but that is what make us grow.

As for Responsibilities, we must find that whatever that we are doing, the people that are with us & the timing for all that we do are the right fit for us.

Sometimes it is good to say NO to something that is not a right fit for us.

Take care of ourselves as nothing is more important than us for ourselves.

Thanks for the sharing sir !

Anonymous said...

Welcome back Mr ERNIE!

"If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader", John Quincy Adam.

Every actions, every words from you are my motivation to keep moving forward and stop the past from haunts me.

Thank you.

-Siti Zaleha Abas-

Luna Yap said...

Trained people's for wanting them to grow extraordinary really not easy because of different character and different thinking. The responsibility Mr. Ernie have really big but always delivery the promise as usual.

Thank you Mr. Ernie always wanting us to grow and the opporturnity you gave us.

-Luna Yap

Anonymous said...

Welcome back Mr. Ernie!

Responsibilities sometimes feel like a burden and it makes us feel miserable but i believe that the more responsibility we have the faster we will grow mentally and emotionally. Thank you for the continuity in making us to realise that we will never run and hide from responsibility. We like it or not, we must do it.

-Jackson Richard-

Ginny said...

Welcome back from Melbourne! I believe this is a fruitful trip to you for the past years.

Everyone has their own responsibility, I included. The more responsibility I have, the more ownership I have. I will not feel that the responsibility is something that held me back but this is a force that pushes me to move forward and faster.

Enjoy what you are doing. Nothing is more important than yourself!

Cheryl said...

Welcome back to Malaysia!

Happiness is self decided and created.
Focus on building ourselves and doing the thing is right fit for us.

MawardiAbdHai said...

Marvelous!!! Thanks for sharing Mr Ernie about your the great escape.
Keep on smiling because life is beautiful and there is so much to smile about.


-Mawardi-

Cenda said...

Welcome back to Malaysia, Mr. Ernie!

I strongly believe that nothing is impossible in life,the moment you take responsibility for everything in your life is the moment you can change anything in your life so Accept responsibility for your action,Be accountable for your result and Take ownership of your mistakes.

'maturity doesn't come with age its comes with acceptance of responsibility'
-- Dr.Edwin Louis Cole --


#Cenda


Vicky Yew said...

Dear Mr. Ernie,

Thank you for the sharing. I believe that if we know what is the direction, then we will know where should me heading to. When we know what need to be done, then the success only will chase after us.

We have an option : become a better version of ourselves.

_Vicky_

Ryan Choy said...

Dear Mr. Ernie,

Thank you for the awesome sharing that led me to know life is about living your own lifestyle. It may have been rough for some days, but if you cling onto it and stay positive, anything can be achieved. You had a choice to live like a king, but you choose your lifestyle to be with the people around you, it is definitely something not every guru can do.

-Ryan-

Tan SK said...

There's this saying, it's not fair, but it's always right. Being capable ties you up with obligation and expectation, and positive pressure will lead to production. Yet, not to forget keeping ourselves fit and comfortable within is essential for walking down a tougher journey.
May angels always be by yourself to grant you what your heart desires.

-Tan SK-

lee jia hao said...

welcome back Mr. Ernie!!!

Everything is possible, it's depends on how the ways we execute for and what's the action that we take! Hope we can learn more new things and knowledge from you soon!

Love you 3000!

-Danny Lee-

Anne Peter said...

A warm welcome back, Mr Ernie!

Thank you for the wonderful sharing. I am really happy for you because you have got this great opportunity to spend your vacation in such a beautiful place. Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don't wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it's at work or with your family.

"Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.” Harvey Mackay

Priyadarshini said...

Welcome back Mr. Ernie!

Goals will give us motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge our progress.

Thank you for the awesome sharing Mr. Ernie.

-Priyadarshini-

Anonymous said...

Hi Mr. Ernie,

Welcome back from Melbourne,

There is Malay Proverb "

Yang Secupak Tidak Akan Jadi Segantang
Yang Sehasta Tidak Akan Jadi Sedepa

-Sry Haryane-